Intimate Relationships

by Dr. Bobbie Stevens on September 5, 2011

Dean and I just celebrated our 32nd anniversary.  Yes, we have been very happily married for thirty two years now.  It has been, and continues to be, a great intimate relationship and we give most of the credit to the fact that we work with a stress releasing process every day.

I discovered this process before we met.  I taught it to Dean and we were both working with the process on a daily bases when we got married and have continued to do so ever since.

We all are so happy when we find someone that we want to spend the rest of our lives with.  You feel so much love and think for sure it will last forever, so you get married, but then in so many cases, the stresses of life start to take their toll.  There seems to be so many demands for your time and energy that there is no longer time for each other.

The stresses build up in the mind/body system and cause you to actually become less capable of meeting all the demands of your life, giving you even less time and energy for the relationship.  The stress also causes one to become less caring.  You can go into a survival mode, where you are just trying to manage the stress.

The built up stress can cause one to become anxious, irritable and very uncomfortable.  Many times people try to alleviate this feeling through the use of alcohol, drugs, over eating or even another sex partner.  When this happens what was once a wonderful intimate relationship is doomed.

The stress sneaks up on you and all kinds of things start to go wrong.  When we say “what went wrong” all kinds of things show up.  You get lost in the complexity of the situation.  Unless you understand how stress affects every aspect of your life you may not even be aware of what happened.

Both parties are under stress and what each does to counteract it usually creates more stress and the relationship goes into a downward spiral.

The question is can a relationship be saved at that point?  Many people have been there and asked us that question.  Our answer is that healing and recovery has to take place within each person for that individual to turn their life around and create a fulfilling life for him/her self.  We do not know if that can happen for each partner in a time frame that can save their relationship.

What we do know is that we have discovered a process that can release the built up stress and strengthen the nervous system thereby making it possible for a person to become much stronger and more capable of facing the challenges of life whatever they turn out to be.

We also know that you can create a wonderful long term intimate relationship with the person of your choice by making a commitment to work with this process to release the stress that has accumulated in your system and continuing to work with the process on a daily basis to counteract the incoming stress.

I have described this process in detail and provided diagrams and step-by-step guidelines in my book on Relationships, entitled Unlimited Futures: How to Understand the Life You Have and Create the Life You Want. I have also created a CD, DVD and Companion Workbook to help you get started.

In addition we now have our Core Course on DVDs so you can experience it in the comfort of your own home.  You may download a free introductory session by simply clicking in the box requesting it on the side of this page.

Once you start experiencing this amazing process, we also provide courses that you can attend to accelerate this natural evolutionary process.

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