When we enter into a relationship with someone, what we see in the other person is what they believe about themselves. We are all putting out an energy that tells the world who we are in our opinion. This, of course, is on an unconscious level for both parties.
The law of attraction is always at work in all areas of our life including our relationships. If we do not feel good about ourselves, we tend to get into relationships with others that do now see the good in us either. If we feel that we do not deserve a loving, caring partner then we attract the kind of person we believe that we do deserve. Therefore, the role of self love in a relationship is primary.
Before we can create a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship with another person we must discover the love that is who we all are. No matter what we have done in our lives, we are all expressions of the source of life, which is love. Anything that takes us away from knowing that love is simply beliefs that we have accepted as true. One of the major laws of nature that I discuss in my book is that “Beliefs are only information that we have accepted as truth”. We make it all up! There is no absolute truth other than the laws of nature or principles of life. Therefore, however we feel about ourselves is just something that has been created from our beliefs.
People, who know the love and wholeness that we all are, may see the good and perfection that we are, but if we are unable to see it within ourselves that blocks our ability to have a loving relationship with anyone. It doesn’t matter what someone else can see in us. What matters is how we feel about ourselves. Our relationships will be a reflection of our beliefs.
Therefore, if you want to create a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship the first step is to get clear about your relationship with yourself. Self love is a prerequisite to any good relationship. To discover a clear path to your own personal growth and self love you can start by reading my book Unlimited Futures: How to Understand the Life You Have and Create the Life You Want, start working with the process described, on a daily basis, and be prepared to discover the love, perfection and wholeness that is you.