Now that we know what stress is, let’s take a look at what causes it. Most people in the world today have been overstressing themselves since childhood because we have not understood stress and how it works.
Many times children are pushed to do more than they are capable of doing. We do that to our children because we do not understand stress, and we want them to be successful. We want them to be exposed to many things and learn as quickly as possible. However, if we push them beyond their level of development it causes fear and damaging stress.
Then when children go to school they want so much to fit in. They want to be liked and accepted. It is a natural need to belong, to feel that you are a part of the bigger group. If they succeed everything goes pretty well, but if they are bullied this causes tremendous stress, more than the young mind/body system can handle. When this happens the stress builds up in the cells of our body to be dealt with whenever possible.
Then in our teens the need to belong becomes even greater and every rejection, either actual or perceived creates distress.
So, by the time we go to college our systems are already overstressed. Our perception has already been damaged, and at that level of development we think we are invisible. We never give any thought to our health.
We still have the same issues with belonging and in addition the academic work becomes harder. Due to our need to belong we do what everyone else is doing. We follow the crowd. That usually means pulling overnighters for both studying for tests and partying. This, of course, deprives the mind/body system of the rest it needs to repair and revitalize itself.
Even if we were lucky enough to have parents that saw to it that we got enough sleep as we were growing up, we are now in charge and following the crowd. We begin to deprive ourselves of the sleep necessary for the mind/body system to repair and revitalize itself. Therefore, more stress is stored away in the cells of our bodies.
We are now also on our own and can make our own choices about what we do, but, of course, we usually follow the crowd. For many at this point drinking becomes a major sport. We have no understanding about what alcohol does to our minds and bodies. The stress it causes severely damages the mind and nervous system. It diminishes mental clarity as well as making overwhelming demands on the digestive system, the liver, etc. Our ability to make good choices is severely diminished.
As I mentioned before, everything we experience in any way creates stress, but we only think of it as stress when all the demands that have been made on the mind/body have damaged the nervous system to where it cannot function properly.
How much stress we can handle depends on the condition of our nervous systems. The nervous system is the communication system that carries all the messages between the mind and body.
Some of us are born with stronger nervous systems than others. We can be healthier or less healthy at birth, but our nervous system is damaged every time it is overloaded. Therefore, the condition of our nervous system is probably the result of one’s life style and experiences.
Many years ago I was experiencing the effects of stress and knew I wanted to do something about it. After much experimentation I created a process that worked for releasing my stress. It allowed my entire mind/body system to heal itself from the damage done by the stress and moved me into a much more advanced level of functioning.
My friends wanted to know what had happened for me, so I shared it with them, and they had the same kind of experience. I knew I had discovered something of great value, so my husband and I founded Unlimited Futures to provide courses to help others release their stress and discover a whole new life.
That was over 20 years ago and thousands of people have now been able to release their stress and create much better lives for themselves.
We now have our course on DVDs so you can experience it right in the comfort of your own home. You may also download a free introductory session of this course by simply clicking in the box on the side of this page requesting it.
I also wrote a book entitled Unlimited Futures: How to Understand the Life You Have and Create the Life You Want. In this book I have described this process in detail and provided diagrams and step-by-step guidelines. In addition I have created a CD, DVD and Companion Workbook to help you start working with this process.
Once you begin to release your stress and discover the wonderful benefits of doing so, we also provide courses you can attend to accelerate this natural evolutionary process.